Posted: Sun Jan 20, 2008 8:42 pm Post subject: riding alone
I am just curious if anyone has taken a medium to long trip alone and the ups and downs of it. I am thinking of going to Dallas>Houston from KC next spring but have not told hubby yet. _________________ "were rolling down the windows for this ride"
WSP
Joined: May 01, 2007 Posts: 71 Location: Stillwater
Posted: Mon Jan 21, 2008 5:06 am Post subject:
TUTU, me and my room mate who has rheumatoid arthritis, took a long trip from Stillwater,Ok,up thru the oklahoma panhandle,over to Taos,New Mexico,then down to Sante Fe and back on highway 40 to come back home. Don't know the total of miles but we were gone about five days. It was a blasts but of course, being women, you have to be aware of your surroundings at all time. I also had the problem of always trying to stop in public places because if Linda falls, I can't pick her up by myslef and she falls quite often. I should also say that I have a GW Trike,that's the only way that she can go with me. We have always rode by ourself or even me by myself until we started the Stillwate Chapter B group. We have traveled all over Okla. by ourselves but sometimes it's nice to be with a group. Just plan ahead for any kind of emergency that might happen on the road,like a tire repair kit,cell phone,numbers of people to call along the way that could help you if you need it,etc.
Well, have you told your husband yet? What are you thinking? Do you not have anyone to ride with?
Peewee,
What a cool trip you took!
I'll tell ya, I'm so itching to go somewhere on my own epic trip. I still have a kid at home...still have doggies that need tending....but I would LOVE to leave WI, and head west. See the grand canyon, bryce canyons, yosemite national park, etc.....
I would not do that by myself...but...i keep telling myself I need like 2 weeks to disappear and see the country. But, I'm such an overly responsible person....I won't leave any responsibilities UNDONE! _________________ Thinking of you,
JenVroom
Joined: Jan 01, 2007 Posts: 664 Location: CENTRAL NJ
Posted: Tue Feb 05, 2008 9:52 pm Post subject:
Jen Vroom,....when you do that trip you BETTER invite me. I will so be there!!!!!
I am doing a trip this summer the "EPIC JOURNEY"......and it is all because I am turning 50 in June. I decided by myself that I was going to do this trip....and did not ask...but told my hubby I was going to do this for me.
Now....I realize we all have different issues in our relationships.....and many different ways of dealing with the day to day realities....and so.....
I knew that my hubby has traveled far and wide low these 20 years of marriage while I have stayed at home ( yes that is a tad of resentment you detect) ....BUT....I also knew that he was not going to begrudge me my time. I knew that HE knew it was "my time" or the highway..... ....But.....I told him in PLENTY of time so that if there were issues...(a years worth if need be) we could work them out...and I would go on the trip... ....but every one needs to be ready for what can happen....most likely all will go well. But what if it doesn't???....All needs to be worked out proir to the trip so that all are ok with what ever happens. I have even talked about it all with all of my children. Having said that...I know that I am not in a position to go alone. I have kids, hubby, Mother....it just wouldn't work. I also do not feel as though I would want to go alone. But I know many women who would if they could....(but they have too many too many familial obligations ,like me, to do so just now)....Just take the precations jenvroom and i hint at. Make certain your hubby knows and all have worked through the necessary emtional work should a problem arise.
...it is a very loving gesture to help those who do not ride....to cope with the realities of ridng....and do what is the right thing without giving up who you are at your very core. _________________ ~~we ride under the same sun and rest under the same moon~~
**personal motto: to embrace the people, perspectives and pathways I encounter while riding
Hi Tink,
You're wonderful. I read your background on your haven site...no wonder you are always a blessing on the forums. You ease everyone emotionally.
No, my husband would be very supportive if I wanted to "disappear." My first husband passed away when my youngest of 3 was 1. That propelled me into my overresponsible-ness along w/ guilt anytime I had fun. I put my head to the plow, earned my under and graduate degrees....all the while raising my kids. It was a bit of therapy (being busy)...plus necessary to support my family. Now my baby is 16...and I've been remarried for 7 years. My husband would totally support a "me" thing. I would have no problem if he wanted to ride w/ me...but his line of work is most busy in the summer...and that's when I'm off (teaching). Plus, I just feel there needs to be an adult around the house for my son. And he's a GOOD boy...just you know. So....maybe I should wait til he's out of High School. Probably will.
...but the itch is ALWAYS there, to take the vacations, do the things I could never do during that hard period. 'Couldn't afford it, didn't have time, others needed to come first, etc.
...So, I'm proud of you Tink. You are saying, "I'm doing this. I need your support." Is this the epic journey I hear reference to thru WI, up into Mich, Canada, etc.? The one some people will jump on for a bit if they can? I love it. 50 and Fabulous. I'm almost there myself.
Many Blessings , _________________ Thinking of you,
JenVroom
Joined: Mar 29, 2007 Posts: 175 Location: Minnesota
Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 7:26 am Post subject:
The 2009 Womens Motorcycle Rally will be in the Rocky Mountains. Sounds like a perfect trip to me!
If you're paid SIS member, there is a big ride coming up in June that a few of us will be on. I'm still debating if I'll be able to go or not. My daughter requires a fair amount of care and her dad non-custodial isn't completely dependable and has been known to ruin my plans an more occasions than I can count. BUT...this will be the first summer out of 4 that I haven't had puppies here. I do have a sidecar for my daughter, but I really wanted to get away ALONE! _________________ ~Leah~
www.gardenofeagan.blogspot.com
Joined: Jul 16, 2007 Posts: 154 Location: Fayetteville, AR
Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 9:28 am Post subject:
This idea is on my horizon someday I hope...but having buried myself in kids so deep (youngest is 4 and I turn 48 in May!) I need to be creative. Then there is the instability of Roy waiting to hear if he is awarded tenure here in Arkansas...if not we will have to move...again:(
In the meantime I just meditate on the words and music of Bob Seger from time to time... "Roll Me Away"
Took a look down a westbound road,
Right away I made my choice
Headed out to my big two-wheeler,
I was tired of my own voice
Took a bead on the northern plains
And just rolled that power on
Twelve hours out of mackinaw city
Stopped in a bar to have a brew
Met a girl and we had a few drinks
And I told her what Id decided to do
She looked out the window a long long moment
Then she looked into my eyes
She didnt have to say a thing,
I knew what she was thinkin
Roll, roll me away,
Wont you roll me away tonight
I too am lost, I feel double-crossed
And Im sick of whats wrong and whats right
We never even said a word,
We just walked out and got on that bike
And we rolled
And we rolled clean out of sight
We rolled across the high plains
Deep into the mountains
Felt so good to me
Finally feelin free
Somewhere along a high road
The air began to turn cold
She said she missed her home
I headed on alone
Stood alone on a mountain top,
Starin out at the great divide
I could go east, I could go west,
It was all up to me to decide
Just then I saw a young hawk flyin
And my soul began to rise
And pretty soon
My heart was singin
Roll, roll me away,
Im gonna roll me away tonight
Gotta keep rollin, gotta keep ridin,
Keep searchin till I find whats right
And as the sunset faded
I spoke to the faintest first starlight
And I said next time
Next time
Well get it right
Your 4 year old is so blessed to have YOU as the mommy! I like your comment about being creative in the situation. We do need to encourage our hearts and minds in difficult situations, hey?
So, when will you find out if you have to move? I don't know all the particulars (obviously), but I hope it all goes well...that you get your heart's desire. _________________ Thinking of you,
JenVroom
Joined: Mar 29, 2007 Posts: 175 Location: Minnesota
Posted: Sat Feb 23, 2008 11:55 pm Post subject:
I sooooo understand! I have only one child left at home. My 11 year old daughter, who also happens to be disabled. I can't just leave her with her dad. We're divorced and his...ummmm "visitation schedule" is anything but dependable. Basically he shows up when he darned well pleases. I'm remarried, but I don't ask my husband to care for my daughter when I'm gone, as she can be pretty difficult to deal with. Besides, she's also going through puberty and if she needs help with anything...well...that just doesn't work out so well.
And then there are the dogs. We are breeders, and decided awhile ago that we wouldn't be having any litters this summer so that I can play a bit. Thankfully mother nature cooperated and caused heat cycles to fall at the right times NOW so I'm not messing with puppies when I want to be on my bike! No...instead I'll have them while I'm hosting Christmas. LOL
But even with all I have going on, I have claimed this summer as M-I-N-E! My daughter is getting sent away to a couple different week-long respite programs (disguised as camps! LOL) And I have a few friends who are willing to get paid as back-up caregivers should my ex not hold to the schedule he promised. And as a very last-ditch resort, I have my sidecar to turn to. I won't bring my daughter on the Epic Journey, as that woudln't be fair to everyone else who isn't expecting to have a 12 year old kid around, but I will bring her along on other things if I have to! In other words...NO MATTER WHAT....I'm GOING! _________________ ~Leah~
www.gardenofeagan.blogspot.com
I'm a teacher, and every summer I tell myself, "OK, my job is to PLAY now." But every August, I ask myself, "where did the summer go. I didn't blah blah blah."
I have 2 doggies, too (not a breeder though). But, as mykids get older, they're becoming my children. I had to leave 'em. I love to walk 'em, take them on adventures, etc. (I know, I should get some help!
But then this winter has been soooo horrible...I'm ready to be outside. I use to groan about super hot and humid days on the bike. Gulp. I've been cured withthis past winter.
My last "baby" is 16....2 more high school years. And he's a GOOD kid....doesn't get into trouble, good grades, college bound. At least 1 of the 3 will be a bit easy.
So, is this the epic rideI keep hearing about, that people will be jumping on at various places?????
I know TINK said when I go out west ( to the mountains, grand canyon, yosemite national park, bryce canyons.....I'm suppose to let her know. It's a dream...we need our dreams......
Blessings, _________________ Thinking of you,
JenVroom
Hey, I was just thinking...let's use the 2009 SIS rally to go out west!!!! Then we'll continue on....grand canyon, etc.?????? _________________ Thinking of you,
JenVroom
Joined: Jul 16, 2007 Posts: 154 Location: Fayetteville, AR
Posted: Wed Feb 27, 2008 9:43 am Post subject:
Roy his in his final year of the tenure process. He submits his final reports in August when the 2008-09 school year begins. They have the whole academic year (technically) to give him their answer, though usually most people hear more quickly...perhaps by early in the second semester....so, we will know for sure by spring of 2009. If he would not get tenure, then you have the following academic year to find a new job so we would not need to move till sometime in 2010. It is somewhat good to have time to figure it out...but then again it also means we are in the "float" time and must be careful about how we spend time and money...well, and then the whole feelign of being afraid to commit to activities or friendships we would like to release ourselves into if that makes sense.
Of course if it goes well and he gets tenure...then the summer of 2010 when I turn 50 may very well be my year for an epic journey on the bike...sure would be a better thign than packing and moving.
*sighs* We are getting too old for this, LOL!
JenVroom wrote:
Bluesmomma2,
Your 4 year old is so blessed to have YOU as the mommy! I like your comment about being creative in the situation. We do need to encourage our hearts and minds in difficult situations, hey?
So, when will you find out if you have to move? I don't know all the particulars (obviously), but I hope it all goes well...that you get your heart's desire.
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But, I'm such an overly responsible person....I won't leave any responsibilities UNDONE!
....But.....I told him in PLENTY of time so that if there were issues...(a years worth if need be) we could work them out...and I would go on the trip... 
....but every one needs to be ready for what can happen....most likely all will go well. But what if it doesn't???....All needs to be worked out proir to the trip so that all are ok with what ever happens. I have even talked about it all with all of my children. Having said that...I know that I am not in a position to go alone. I have kids, hubby, Mother....it just wouldn't work. I also do not feel as though I would want to go alone. But I know many women who would if they could....(but they have too many too many familial obligations ,like me, to do so just now)....Just take the precations jenvroom and i hint at. Make certain your hubby knows and all have worked through the necessary emtional work should a problem arise.
